Back to School, Guilty Girl Guide to Life

Kick Off Summer by Preparing for Back-to-School: Introduction

  When I was a kid, my mom always encouraged me to get my homework done on Friday so I wouldn’t have it hanging over my head all weekend. “Put it behind you & you can relax, enjoy the weekend!” she always said. I wasn’t always good about following that advice but over the years, as a mom, I understand…

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The Problem with Guilt Part 6: Guilt Likes the Dark

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The Problem with Guilt Part 5: We Go It Alone

  A guilt trip is a lonely journey. We rarely take a companion along with us. Those around us may suffer because of our guilt but they aren’t able to ease it. We are unable to share our burden with others so they might carry part of it for us.

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The Problem with Guilt Part 4: We Overcompensate

  We feel guilty. We think we’ve done something wrong. We try to make it right. When we can’t make it right, we overreact. One of the ways we overreact is to overcompensate. In other words, we try to make things up. We can’t make it right, so we work to make it better. Oh, Boy!

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The Problem with Guilt Part 3: We Overreact

  Let’s review: we say we feel guilty. Our brains process guilt with doing something wrong. If we have done something wrong, then we must work to make it right. Unfortunately, we haven’t REALLY done anything wrong so we find it’s impossible to make things right. Out of frustration, we simply try harder. And that is when we overreact.

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The Problem with Guilt Part 2: We Try to Make it Right

  If we think we are guilty, then we believe we have done something wrong. When we do something wrong, we try to make it right. We make a mistake, we correct it. We break something, we replace it. We damage something, we pay to have it repair. These are all very cut & dry, very black & white. Unfortunately,…

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The Problem with Guilt Part 1: Guilt Implies We’ve Done Something Wrong!

I LOVE Law & Order. I watch it on one of the local stations every Wednesday & Thursday. I watch other crime shows as well but Law & Order allows me to see the police do their job & the prosecutors do their job. So I see courtroom action every episode. Most episodes, at some point, a judge asks the…

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Stop Calling It Guilt!

I like watching courtroom programs like Law & Order & Perry Mason. One thing they have taught me is the meaning of guilt. In my opinion, guilt implies a misdeed has been done. Sometimes, such as on these shows, the misdeed is a terrible crime, someone has broken the law. At other times, people have done something bad that may…

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